Mum left devastated after no one shows up to her gender reveal party

A woman has described how she was left devastated and in floods of tears when none of her friends turned up to her gender reveal party. 

The 20-year-old woman, who is 17 weeks pregnant, had planned an afternoon with a buffet and decorations, inviting 11 people to the party. But she was left heartbroken hours after it was set to start as she was left still waiting for people turn up. 

Writing on the parenting website NetMums, she said: ‘So I’m 20 and I’m 17 weeks, I hosted a gender reveal at the weekend and was expecting around 11 guests (after cancellations), it was only at my house and I invited people that I feel genuinely close to. 

‘It got to the starting time (3pm) and my friend who helped me prep and clean my house were eagerly waiting for people to show, at 3.30 my other friend who already knows the gender (so both of them knew already) arrived as her bus was late.

‘Time kept ticking so I texted my close friend asking when she was due, no reply. ‘It got to four and no one had arrived still. 

I spent the last of my money for the month on arranging this party, getting decorations and food and put on a full on mini buffet, and not one of the 10 people told me until 3/4/5pm that they couldn’t make it. 

‘Two of my ‘friends’ showed up at 5 after I’d spent an hour crying, and then messaged me complaining I never said thank you for the cake they’d made (I said plenty of other nice things about it just forgot to say thank you as I was distressed).

‘It ended up being a gathering where all of the people except me were drinking and we watched tv. ‘The girl who didn’t text me back until 4 saying “I can come now” by which point I was so upset I told her not to bother (this person has no job, and she’s pregnant herself so surely she would understand how important this is to me?) even started arguing with me for being upset saying “I offered to come so don’t paint me with the same brush” and that I shouldn’t expect people to ‘turn up on the dot’. 

I don’t have any family support and I was relying on my friends and felt completely heartbroken. ‘Am I wrong to be so bothered by it? I genuinely want to cut everyone who didn’t bother off even if they’e messaged me since, I feel like if they can’t put aside two hours of time to celebrate my baby why should they have the liberty of calling themselves ‘auntie’ or ‘uncle’ despite clearly no support from them. 

‘I’m still shook over it, my support network is literally at 3 people! I feel so isolated as I’m going to be a single mum and I have no one.” Other mums on the site were very supportive and shared their outrage at her mates.